it's not for nothing if it was time spent helping you figure out what is right for you, what works, what feels best/better. and it's not for nothing anyway, because your insight into this helps other people understand that there is a more complicated space out there.

or at least that's how i try to see it, when i think about this sort of thing in relation to myself.

as for the first fear you mentioned-- i worry about that too, but i keep trying to remember how much "the way things are" can change, & has changed, historically.