i think it does require participation from both sides, which in its own fashion will give you more food for thought - assuming for a moment that it is nigh impossible for someone to give up all their stored behavior from past interactions, societal norms, etc... we now can analyze/obsess over which ones they gave up and which ones they were not able to give up, or didnt give up becuase they didnt consider them negotiable.

I got about 2 hours of rest last night so that may not be english.