Ah, the addendum helps muchly!

It seems to me that the words as crafted/developed were done so to indicate that progression - not necessarily consciously in relation to one another, but it's how they more or less turned out (hm, that exact order- I might disagree with in relation to myself and as I understand wider cultural use, but I won't diverge too much).
In the attempt to classify, which is almost always taken to extremes-past-utility, the 'norm' and variance from that were grown to help define, but then definition became judgement. I don't believe this is an inherent attribute of classification, but a pretty prevalent one. Er, to restate - exclusion and marginalization are not necessary attributes of classification, but are pretty damn common ones, like politics with corruption.

Not sure for the self-attribution: choosing to see oneself as willfully and even defiantly outside, defiant?
Accepting the yoke of classification for it's more exclused attributes, rather than the mainstream ones?
You're a kinky fetishistic pervert and that's that?