It's good that you're noticing this. It happens to me, too. (although the fear is about things other than gender)
When I consistently get feedback from people that is the opposite of what I think they're seeing, it wants to teach me to extend the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I think that the whole myth of vampires not being seen in mirrors, is really just a metaphor for a lack of self-image. Other people *can* see a vampire's reflection in the mirror, but a vampire has a cognitive blind spot: the face in the mirror that they see reflected, doesn't really remind them of themselves.
When the inner life becomes large enough and invisible enough, it completely overshadows the oter life that's easily seen by others. At this point, you need a whole different scale of survival strategy.
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When I consistently get feedback from people that is the opposite of what I think they're seeing, it wants to teach me to extend the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I think that the whole myth of vampires not being seen in mirrors, is really just a metaphor for a lack of self-image. Other people *can* see a vampire's reflection in the mirror, but a vampire has a cognitive blind spot: the face in the mirror that they see reflected, doesn't really remind them of themselves.
When the inner life becomes large enough and invisible enough, it completely overshadows the oter life that's easily seen by others. At this point, you need a whole different scale of survival strategy.