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Aug. 30th, 2020 06:38 pmI have... profound... abandonment issues. My fear of rejection fuels most of my interpersonal anxiety, and probably no small degree of my hyperawareness driven perpetual modeling of potential situations in my head. I like to think that this doesn't show much; I've surprised therapists when I laid out the above to them (but they might have been shitty therapists).
I think this is why people often perceive me as aloof, arrogant or disapproving. I'm paying attention to what's going on in my head for part of it, and trying to mask fear and discomfort on another.
People who openly express needs and desires? They confuse the hell out of me; there are times my reaction to this behaviour is scornful dismissal, rooted, no doubt, in "who are they, to think they can get what they want just by *asking*?"
I think this is why people often perceive me as aloof, arrogant or disapproving. I'm paying attention to what's going on in my head for part of it, and trying to mask fear and discomfort on another.
People who openly express needs and desires? They confuse the hell out of me; there are times my reaction to this behaviour is scornful dismissal, rooted, no doubt, in "who are they, to think they can get what they want just by *asking*?"
