I have a first cousin once removed who, by all appearances, is under the trans umbrella (gender non-conforming, nonbinary, genderfluid, or something else: I'm not 100% sure). This person is the grandchild of the aunt and uncle who were most rigid in enforcing rigid, assigned at birth gender roles on me well into my twenties.

I'm not close to my family, in large part because of the fraught history and lack of accounting of the cruel and inflexible rules they imposed upon me. I was a problem discussed when not present, and one that the "adults" collectively acted like wasn't a problem in company.

I'm both genuinely pleased that a family member a generation down the line doesn't have to deal with the pain and bullshit I did, and simultaneously bitter and resentful that they and their grandparents benefit from my still quite raw vanguard experience.