I like to think that I don't care, per se, what a given person may think (unless they're important to me), but I am often quite concerned with potential repercussions for transgressing the "natural". I suspect sometimes the latter may look like the former, and maybe sometimes they blur in such a way that even I can't tell the difference, even when I think I can. I don't know, honestly.

I think this carries over to individual vs general points, as well. While I'm generally open to people not sucking, to not being self-satisfied bigots or close minded, at the same time it seems, on a certain level, a question of safety to realize that odds are they likely will be, particularly where my own issues and body/role (and why my body is anyone else's business, when most others would fiercely resist me doing similar things to them, is beyond me) are concerned, at least initially. The balancing of those two are tricky, naturally, but I like to think that I leave room for people not to disappoint me.