unless you are comfortable being a carbon copy...you end up in this corner...take it from an ex-mom and a soon to be ex-wife & ex-civilian...the only thing that didn't raise a ripple was the ex-wife...the mother in law was dancing a jig over that...me being the wrong shade and all...but if you think i got off easy admitting i'm not maternal enough to be a mom...the ex-civilian ran the gambit...lucky for me those i care about are willing to let me make my own choices without judging me