It matters because *you* give it that weight and *you* give it that definition.
If you're referencing 'bedroom' thoughts/actions, then there is only a very small number of people involved and they are the only ones who have any say in definitions. Period.
If you're referencing 'non-bedroom' thoughts/actions, then while society (or, in my opinion, more like a few morons) may use definitions such as above, it doesn't mean that they're *right*.
And, you know why you apply the more 'suspect' meanings to yourself ... 1. it seems like it'll be better if you beat 'them' to the punch 2. you set higher standards for yourself than you do for others 3. you try to anticipate the very worst that things, or you, can be 4. you are a big ol' silly head who needs to learn to give yourself a little slack and the permission to have fun.
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Date: 2003-01-07 03:00 pm (UTC)It matters because *you* give it that weight and *you* give it that definition.
If you're referencing 'bedroom' thoughts/actions, then there is only a very small number of people involved and they are the only ones who have any say in definitions. Period.
If you're referencing 'non-bedroom' thoughts/actions, then while society (or, in my opinion, more like a few morons) may use definitions such as above, it doesn't mean that they're *right*.
And, you know why you apply the more 'suspect' meanings to yourself ... 1. it seems like it'll be better if you beat 'them' to the punch 2. you set higher standards for yourself than you do for others 3. you try to anticipate the very worst that things, or you, can be 4. you are a big ol' silly head who needs to learn to give yourself a little slack and the permission to have fun.
Neener, neener, neener!! *smooch*