hi. i feel like my life & a's life parallel in lots of ways-- it's rad to see that our partners say similar things about this kind of stuff too. reading this sort of restored my faith in other people. you obviously rock.

a: if you want to talk about pronouns & interacting with other people in this way, feel free to get in touch. i had really similar feelings (about imposing on others when i wasn't sure what was "right" for me, about putting myself in the other box, etc) about a year ago. for a while most of my friends were avoiding pronouns entirely, & then i decided to try out "he" with my girlfriend & a few close friends, just at their homes & stuff. it helped me figure out what felt better to me.

another aspect of it was thinking non-binarily about how people would perceive me (as i've yet to engage in medical options) & how using "he" would be a tool i could use to put a rift in binary gendering.

anyway. best of luck. keep your head up.