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[adrienmundi]

Perhaps reliance on dialectic is less than effeicient in current circumstances. Too bad I'm not as good at monologue.

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[fairyhead.livejournal.com]

Just a thought ... even though I know you better than about anyone, there are times when I just don't know what to say or I put off commenting here, because I hope to talk with you face to face, then end up not (because I forget to do so much).

Now, logically, I know that the reasonable thing to do would be to just post a simple comment to let you know that I'm reading and thinking about you, but I worry that I'll spend all my time doing that, and that over time you'll find those statements empty and hollow.

I've got to imagine that other people have similar tendencies, too ...

[adrienmundi]

It's not the commenting here that's specifically at issue, really; it's the commenting at all. In a lot of cases, a lot of the time, it feels like I'm lecturing (at best) or speaking into the void (at worst), when what I crave is some tiny bit of dialogue, some seed that might contain something I hadn't considered, or something to send me off in a slightly different direction than that in which I had started. Perhaps the hidden message is that I should find a way to be more self-sufficient, or at least more efficiently self-sufficient.

[fairyhead.livejournal.com]

Right. While I specifically mentioned how my brain works about LJ commenting, the idea can be applied throughout all my dealings with people.

Bottom line ... lots of people are really afraid of people and you are a person, so you have the potential to be scary. My quietness generally stems from my fear of being dumb or wrong and is totally my neurosis, though it impacts other people.

Statistically speaking, if I go through this, other people probably do to. I don't think it's an indicator of you needing to be more self-sufficient. I think that, some of us will learn to be more risk taking.