whining: addendum

[adrienmundi]

But, if gender is largely social, where the hell did mine come from? Even at my most egocentric, I find it very hard to believe that I am truly unique in that regard, bringing something wholly new and unknown all on my own. But I'm not an essentialist, either biological or metaphysical; I don't believe there is an internal template that we have from birth that is responsible for who we become. There seems to be a basic truth in identity being social, to me. If that is so, then I cannot be outside the allowable, because I *do* exist. So... it leads me to the conclusion that I am allowed to exist as I experience myself, but at the same time, I am not supposed to exist as I experience myself. I'm not sure how to resolve that.