a warning/notification and nugget the first

[adrienmundi]

I've got odd bits in my head that want to come out, so I'm probably up for a series of short, disconnected, seemingly extra-contextual posts on a variety of subjects. You've been warned ;)

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I don't like the way a lot of people implement the term 'bisexual' (or it might well be that I don't like the term itself). It seems... inaccurate? Or maybe it's exactly as intended, which is another issue.

To me, it seems to be just as rooted in the idea that sexual attraction/activity is based on membership in the categories of 'man' and 'woman' as hetero- or homosexualty; it's constructed on the same underpinnings. Like I said, maybe this is what some people mean when they say 'bisexual', that they like men (who are 'men') and women (who are 'women'), but... where is the room for individuality, for unique categories and meaning? It's not just personal (though it does affect me, potentially, directly; if people like only 'men' and 'women', which is their choice, but still, there isn't room for me), it seems potentially imprecise. Some people, it seems, use the term to mean 'I like the person, independent of genitals/sex/gender', but frame it in terms defined by hetero- and homosexuality, which were created to define a sharp, absolute demarcation.

Comments

[dustyskinandall.livejournal.com]

I avoid identifying myself as bisexual, but don't throw a fit when others use that to identify me. Binary gender classification is pretty much a bunch of BS at this point...
I've definitely been attracted to "butch women" or "effeminate men" or "femme women" or "men's men" etc. etc. so where does that leave us? It's definitely imprecise to say "bisexual" for me.

[adrienmundi]

That's why I say, "I like pretty", and of course, I get to define what pretty is :)

[dustyskinandall.livejournal.com]

Nice. Maybe I'll start using that one! ;)

[adrienmundi]

Use, customize or modify at will :)