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[adrienmundi]

It frustrates me to realize I have not escaped my family as relatively unscathed as I had liked to imagine. I hate that they were able to have such a pronounced effect on me, and in some ways still do, despite having all but severed ties.

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[fairyhead.livejournal.com]

I don't think severing ties does much, if anything, to resolve outstanding issues. It simply makes things more bearable. I really believe what an old counselor told me that I'd either need to confront it or learn to let it go. I think, clearly, with my mother, there will never be a confrontation of any honesty - I've just got to figure out how to process it, then let it go. (Heh, yeah, when I can do that, I'll write a book and we'll drink fruity drinks on the beach from there on out.)

[adrienmundi]

Ah, shit. I think my odds of either of those is really small at this point.

[fairyhead.livejournal.com]

I don't imagine a big confrontation, but can see you finding some kind of peace with the past. It's not for your family or to have a nice tidy little bow on things, but (I think) a kind of natural progression of moving forward. I don't think you've spent that much time really considering how your family may have impacted things. Once you turn some resources on that, I think you'll start to see some results.