how to answer a question about identity
Dec. 23rd, 2009 08:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
adrienmundi(mine, at least, and today's answer to new therapist)
I'm not a man or a woman.
I'm not really something in between, either.
There's something about the set of ideas grouped under "girl" (as opposed to "woman", but not in a developmental/age defined aspect) that sometimes has a lot of appeal to me, though it makes me worry that in using a word that's usually in service to the either/or construction that maybe I'm more invested in that than I am aware (and I worry about that often, at an increasing and unproductive speed). I'd like to be able to step into and out of that as it suits me, hopefully in a way that doesn't offend or invalidate anyone else for whom "girl" is their primary identity.
There are things usually assigned to "man" or "guy" that I value and won't willingly give up, but I think I can do that without taking on the label.
Other days, I'm just something else that I don't know how to define, particularly in relation to the either/or, black or white palette most people are trained to see through.
I'm not a man or a woman.
I'm not really something in between, either.
There's something about the set of ideas grouped under "girl" (as opposed to "woman", but not in a developmental/age defined aspect) that sometimes has a lot of appeal to me, though it makes me worry that in using a word that's usually in service to the either/or construction that maybe I'm more invested in that than I am aware (and I worry about that often, at an increasing and unproductive speed). I'd like to be able to step into and out of that as it suits me, hopefully in a way that doesn't offend or invalidate anyone else for whom "girl" is their primary identity.
There are things usually assigned to "man" or "guy" that I value and won't willingly give up, but I think I can do that without taking on the label.
Other days, I'm just something else that I don't know how to define, particularly in relation to the either/or, black or white palette most people are trained to see through.
